Stop Saying Sorry!

You’ve done it. I’ve done it. We have all done it. Our happy mask cracks and a tear streams down our face. We are showing another emotion other than happiness—and the first thing we say is, “I’m sorry.” Stop! Stop! Stop! We need to stop saying we are sorry when we show any other emotion other than happiness.

Have you ever apologized for being too happy? No, because it’s ridiculous. We are a myriad of emotions. Most of us are not in a perpetual state of contentedness, or in deep sorrow. Actually, we are somewhere in between happiness and sadness on any given day.

For example, my husband’s natural state of being is what many people would describe as ‘resting bitch face.’ He says it’s his happy face, which prompts great laughs. He’s not happy nor is he sad, he just is. I wonder if it makes people feel uncomfortable when in the presence of someone who is discontent?

When we are real with our emotions with others (those we trust and deem safe) and settle into a natural state of being it can lead to deeper more meaningful conversations. Our facial muscles relax as we face our true emotions. It is not an artificial smirk plastered on our face, but a more melencoly way of being that can create a stronger and real connection with others.

I’m comfortable with the heavy topics at a dinner party mixed in with some light hearted pop culture fluff. I can dig it all. What I can’t handle is when it’s all pleasantries and everything nice. Why? Because I know the person to my left might be missing someone, or the person in front of me might be feeling sad or worried for another unknown reason. I can often feel it in my bones the true mindset of the people I am breaking bread with. Frankly, I would much rather get to the heart of the matter than sit for two hours talking about what’s on the surface.

Maybe it’s the therapist in me. Maybe it’s the fact that my heart feels heavy too at times and I’d like to share what’s on my mind. It might very well be a mixture of everything. What I do know is that as I get older I crave for a deeper meaning to moments that seem fleeting. I crave the true meaning to it all!

So let it all go. Let your hair down. Let your tears flow. Let a genuine smile cross your face. Simply be. Let your natural state of being just be. You might find a deeper meaning to life. Well, at least that’s what I sincerely hope for us all. For the love of all that is good—please start by stop saying sorry for showing how you are truly feeling.

Ps. Happy Birthday Luna!